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Lala Kent revealed why she ended her Give Them Lala podcast, and she recalled screaming fights with Ambyr Childers, the ex-wife of her ex-boyfriend Randall Emmett (and the mother of two of his children). Ambyr then shared the turning point of their relationship and why she chose to forgive her.
Lala started dating Randall when he was still married to Ambyr. After Lala and Randall’s split, the Vanderpump Rules star suggested that she closed her eyes to the idea that their relationship was once an “affair.” Despite their past, Lala and Ambyr — who have daughters that are half-siblings — eventually became friends.
On the premiere episode of her Untraditionally Lala podcast, Lala announced the end of her previous podcast, Give Them Lala.
“I’ve had the Give Them Lala podcast for, I wanna say, around six years. And it was a wonderful experience. I loved everything we spoke about,” said the star, via @vanderpodrecaps on Instagram. “But Give Them Lala was just something that came to be, for those of you who watch Vanderpump Rules, season five, where I just wanted to shove myself down everybody’s throat, whether you liked it or not.”
“And as I grew up, some may say that still hasn’t happened, but it depends on who you ask. If you’re asking me, I like to say I am very evolved now,” she added. “With age and two kids, I just felt like Give Them Lala was, it just didn’t sit right anymore. I felt like we had outgrown it. I felt like it was juvenile in a time in my life that was wonderful, but I’ll never be going back to.”
She said the new podcast reflects her “untraditional” life.
In the episode, Lala interviewed Ambyr, who shared why she forgave Lala’s mistakes.
“True forgiveness [is] for yourself. It’s not for the other person,” said Ambyr. “I [didn’t] want to keep suffering. And I suffered for a long time … It was like that, that scratch that you, that would heal. And then you would just like pick at it and then start bleeding again. And then it would scab again. It’s like, but why? It’s like in this constant cycle, this loop of self-sabotage, self-pity, self-torture.”
According to Lala, they had moments where they were screaming “b**ch” and “f**k you” at each other on the phone, but this never would have happened after Lala stopped drinking.
“[Now] we’re great,” said Lala. “And I love having you in my life. I feel like you’re a sister to me. We’re forever going to be family because of our kids … It is very rare that you hear a situation where there was a cheating scandal that happened and the wife forgives. And I’m going to put it in quotes because I still refuse to call myself a mistress. The ‘mistress.’ Am I a mistress?”
Lala also asked Ambyr how she dealt with seeing her on TV knowing she had helped to wreck her marriage.
“I truly cannot imagine what it was like for you to watch that person, me, at that time, and go, this is the person who came in, I don’t know if I’m using the right word, destroyed my family, the person that’s potentially going to be around my children. I would have lost my mind. What your mindset was when, like, if you’d seen clips, or, like, what was your headspace?” asked Lala.
“My initial reaction for everything in life is I go numb. Actually, as I’ve gone older, my hormones have, like, changed a little bit. Perimenopause. I see red sometimes. But then other times where I just want to numb the f**k out. Because the feeling, the feelings are just too big for me to manage,” said Ambyr. “I think during that time, I didn’t know how to cope. So for me, it was just, like, go in and I just, like, you just want to die. You just want to die. But I didn’t.”
Ambyr then revealed the turning point of their relationship.
“You called me one day … And I answered,” recalled Ambyr. “And you’re like, can you talk? … And you literally just made amends to me. And I never thought that day would come. And it’s everything that I needed in my healing. And that allowed me to have the closure I needed between you and I. Because I know you’re not a bad person.”