Married to Medicine star Buffie Purselle is taking new steps to become a mother while her costar Dr. Jackie Walters admits she made a mistake by speaking publicly about her fertility issues in last week’s episode.
After a long time of struggling to get pregnant, Buffie and her husband Dr. David Purselle announced that they’re officially going the surrogacy route during the Married to Medicine reunion taping that took place on Thursday, November 21.
“We’re so excited to become parents,” Buffie recently told PEOPLE. “A family is something that we have both desperately wanted for so long now. We made our decision and we couldn’t be happier!”
The Bravo star also took to Instagram to announce the exciting news.
“Surprise!! We are so excited!!” Buffie wrote alongside a snap of the publication’s headline. “Thank you @people for sharing our journey! Thanks @bravoandy @gabunion and @kandi for inspiring us! 👶🏽 🍼”
Buffie’s struggle to get pregnant has been featured heavily on the show this past season. The reality star even admitted to spending a whopping $200,000 trying to conceive naturally along with intrauterine insemination and in-vitro fertilization.
“We tried and tried, and we were successfully able to get pregnant six times, but unfortunately we had six miscarriages,” the reality star admitted. “Sadly, it didn’t [stick].”
According to Buffie and her husband, they’re currently seeking a surrogate through a program a friend turned them onto and will be using their five embryos, three boys and two girls “from years ago.”
Just less than a week before Buffy announced her exciting baby news to the world, her costar Jackie took it upon herself to announce that she was “infertile” during her book release party. And as we saw during the episode, Buffie was deeply hurt after such personal information of hers was announced to a room full of people.
But since the episode aired, Jackie has admitted she feels bad for what she did.
“I hate that it happened. You know, if I could definitely take it back and do it all over again, because I really was not aware what Buffie wanted to share,” the OBGYN explained to Bravo’s The Daily Dish about what happened. “And I can certainly say it isn’t my place to share. But after we had talked about it throughout the group I really thought it was OK.”
“And so, certainly being a physician, and, you know, a board-certified physician who takes care of tons of celebrities and people from all over the country, I would not have shared something like that had I thought it was not OK with her. You know, I am sorry. I should have asked her, and I hate that [it hurt her]. That is what definitely bothers me the most,” Jackie added.
After a clip of the episode was released before it aired, Buffy took to Instagram to express how betrayed she felt by Dr. Jackie.
“This was one of the most humiliating and painful moments in my life.” Buffie wrote at the beginning of her lengthy post on November 5. “I am proud that I was able to rise above my pain and embarrassment and conduct myself as the lady that my Mother and Grandmother raised me to be.”
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This was one of the most humiliating and painful moments in my life. I am proud that I was able to rise above my pain and embarrassment and conduct myself as the lady that my Mother and Grandmother raised me to be. When you first meet someone and they see that you are happily married they ask the inevitable question “do you have kids?” I always answer no. No – period. Then SOME people ask “why NOT” as if my husband and I have done something wrong. I am then forced to explain my many failed attempts at motherhood. This is the level of discussion that Dr. Walters and I had regarding my CHALLENGES with fertility. To call another woman infertile is cruel. That word doesn’t begin to describe the type of person that I am. The clinical definition is that you are unable to GET pregnant. Well, I can and have gotten pregnant many times. I was just unable to carry my babies to full term. Additionally, it means that you bear no fruit. Well, I like to think that I have been a productive member of society and that my mark will be left through philanthropy. I believe that Dr. Walters said this with malicious intent because she could have said many other things about me if she truly wanted to relate to me. We are both successful businesswomen, we are both extremely organized, we both do a lot of charity work, the list goes on and on but she settled on this. And to date, she has NEVER offered me a sincere apology. I don’t want an apology from her anyway because she doesn’t think that she did anything wrong. A mouse has more emotional intelligence. For all of the people saying this is some sort of editing trick – sadly it’s not, it happened, and being forced to relive it on television and social media hasn’t been fun. Thank you to everyone for the positive words of encouragement. The kindness of strangers will never cease to amaze me. I’m fine. I’m tougher than I seem and this too shall pass. I am thankful to know who my REAL friends are on the cast @drsswhit @iluvmariah and @toyabushharris and thanks #Lake and #DrJarret 💜💜💜 #married2med
Jackie also admitted that perhaps this misunderstanding was because she and Buffie deal with situations like infertility differently. For example, she uses her life’s story, like her battle with cancer, as a “teaching tool” and isn’t afraid to bare it all.
While Jackie didn’t realize how hurt Buffie was at the time she made the comment, she realized later how upset she was.
“My heart hurts when somebody is humiliated. Like, it’s just not my nature to humiliate like that. And so, if she’s humiliated or because she thinks she’s humiliated, I hate that,” Jackie said in response to Buffie’s Instagram post, which she hadn’t seen right away because she had been blocked. “I hate that I’m a person who caused her that kind of pain.”
Since reading the lengthy Instagram post, Jackie says she’s apologized for what happened on several occasions. And she admits that she’s not sure what else she needs to say to Buffie to make things right. As of now, the two are reportedly not speaking to one another.
“I can’t force the healing. You know, she has to take her time and heal. So, I’m not saying she’s not hurt. It’s in her own time,” the doctor explained further. “So you have to offer to do a sincere apology and then just allow that person to heal.”
Married to Medicine airs on Sundays at 9 pm on Bravo TV
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