Below Deck Med Recap: Natalya Reaches Her Boiling Point With Tumi as Tumi Calls Her a Chihuahua, Plus Chef Jack & Tumi Butt Heads Over Communication Issues, and Kyle & a New Deckhand Join the Crew

by Julia

Below Deck Med Recap: Natalya Reaches Her Boiling Point With Tumi as Tumi Calls Her a Chihuahua, Plus Chef Jack & Tumi Butt Heads Over Communication Issues, and Kyle & a New Deckhand Join the Crew

Tumi, the chief stew, is certainly making a name for herself on the yacht now that she is settling in and prepping for the new charter. On this episode of Below Deck Med, the crew gets a refresh when Kyle and a new deckhand arrive. It only makes things more complicated as Tumi and Natalya continue to butt heads over leadership styles and attitudes. But when Tumi starts having issues with Chef Jack, that’s when things really start to fall apart…

The chief stew is officially on board, and she is rocking the boat… pun intended. Tumi is making it clear the organization done by Natalya thus far is not how she would do it, and once hands start waving, it is evident that the stews are not off to the best start. Tumi is used to standing her ground, but Natalya is used to running this yacht. Power struggle 101.

Natalya runs and tells the crew all the new drama about ice queen Tumi, but they all decide to try and remain positive despite the way things started off. Captain Sandy calls for a preference meeting, and Chef Jack is about to get rocked with the vegan guest coming on board.  To make matters worse, the weather is going to be lousy, and therefore, they may have to stay docked.

Alliances are revealed when we see Tumi text Kyle before he even gets on the yacht. In a nutshell, Tumi threatens that, “Nat needs to stay in her lane.” Natalya has other things to worry about, though… like her open relationship. She still can’t get used to this situation that she is in, and who knows how long she will stay in touch with this guy, considering the flirtation with Luka is real.

The next morning, Tumi begins with her orders, Jack is whipping up his menu, and Captain Sandy is desperately trying to figure out how to work through the stormy weather. Natalya would rather stay down in laundry than deal with Tumi, and THAT is how we know how badly things are going between them…

Kyle is back on board — the one most love to hate, but admittedly he does bring the drama. Kyle is thrilled that Captain Sandy asked to have him back for this charter season, and he will tell anyone who will listen. Kyle is so excited to see Natalya, even though they ended on a bad note, and he listens eagerly while Natalya airs her grievances about Tumi, who also happens to be Kyle’s friend. Messy, messy.

Haleigh is trying to figure out how to put herself to good use on the “floating hotel” — a far cry from the tugs she is used to working on — and Tumi holds a meeting with her stews. She talks about ranks and puts Kyle right into second stew. Natalya gets bumped to third stew, and Jessika… well, is she really even necessary to be there at this point?! However, Jessika is relieved to be pushed back down to the bottom because that translates to less stress for her.

Finally, a new deckhand makes his way on board, a French man with four years of yachting experience. He gets there just in time to help lug in the provisions and change into whites. Little does he know that drama is brewing between the stews.

The bad weather is not helping the guests’ attitudes upon arrival, and even Captain Sandy admits that “this is gonna suck.” She must break the bad news to them that they will be staying on the dock, but their frowns change as Tumi shows them around the vessel.

Natalya is heated because she has learned that Tumi texted Kyle and said Natalya better watch her back, and she is letting everyone know that Tumi has it out for her. Much to Natalya’s pleasure, the service is off to a rocky start. Jack is getting rushed, and the guests are getting antsy, especially because they refuse the cheese plate that was prepared for them. Natalya is loving that things are spiraling, and she blames Tumi’s bad attitude for the issues she is having with the chef. Is this Tumi’s karma?

After much ado, the food arrives to some hungry guests, and they approve of the dishes that Jack cooked up, except for the vegan meal… that one only got a six… ooph. To try and deter herself from frustration, Natalya has decided to channel her emotions into flirting with Luka.

The masseuse arrives on deck to try and distract the guests from the fact that they are not actually moving on the boat. Captain Sandy likes Tumi’s “expectation of perfection,” but Natalya is working overtime trying to showcase Tumi’s negative attitude. Natalya lets Jack know that Tumi has already said something about him, and an alliance seems to form between them.

The charter guest lets Tumi know that she is changing her world because Tumi is a Black woman working on this boat. Tumi discusses how there is a big lack of diversity in the industry, and she shares how she fought hard to be in the position she is in now.

There’s a bit of confusion with service, once again… as the vegan guest requested pasta as her main. According to Tumi, the guests are the ones who messed up, and Jack lets Tumi know that she has to get this back on track. Tumi, clearly not looking to get blamed for issues, comes back downstairs to the galley to show Jack the actual menu they planned for the guests. Tumi snipes, “She got confused. It’s not our problem.”

Jack wishes that Tumi would start holding herself accountable for the mistakes, and therefore, he is having a hard time connecting with her. Tumi feels like because Natalya is running her mouth, she is causing unnecessary tension with the chef. She tells Jack, “I know you have someone in your ear,” and Jack promises that he made up his mind on his own.

It’s a late-night party for the guests as they stay up til 2:35 a.m., causing Kyle not to lie down until 3 a.m. Kyle left quite a mess for the morning person, who happens to be Natalya. She is stuck cleaning up the decorations from the night before, and she is not happy. When Tumi wakes up, Natalya lets her know the situation that Kyle left them in, but Tumi doesn’t seem to care.

Tumi states that she prefers Kyle going to bed at 3:00 rather than staying up late cleaning. She makes it clear she is fine with it and does not appreciate Natalya telling her how to handle her duties. Tumi likens Natalya to a Chihuahua, and she feels as though Natalya has been attacking her since day one. Tumi walks away from a fed-up Natalya, leaving you to wonder if these two will ever learn to get along… for the sake of the tips at least…!



Rosemarie October 10, 2023 - 9:41 am

It’s battle of the egos. I thought it was absolute cringe. Both were out of line.

Elle Kay ???? ???????????????? ???? October 10, 2023 - 9:47 am

Team Natalya

Squirrellie October 10, 2023 - 11:52 am

But she took it wrong on what Tumi said about the boat. It had nothing to do with Nat and how she set up the areas. It was the general flow of the boat. Nat should not be talking so bad about others, this will come back to haunt her.

David's Chips October 10, 2023 - 12:35 pm

Love your Halloween decorations!

Elle Kay ???? ???????????????? ???? October 10, 2023 - 10:31 pm

Tks 🙂 lol

saynt96 October 10, 2023 - 9:51 am

Kyle was stirring the pot with his two faces.

texasrose October 10, 2023 - 6:16 pm

Agree but Natalya a bit of a head case and you knew this was going south. I almost wonder if BRAVO made up the visa issue for the drama it produced- Natalya getting bumped down and giving Kyle time to poison Tumi.

????Veronica Mars????️‍♀️(Courtney) October 10, 2023 - 9:56 am

Kyle is the poison. It all links back to Kyle.

Both Natalya and Tumi are handling this all wrong but Natalya is only responding to Tumi’s first shots fired. Tumi is 100% favoring Kyle and to make him 2nd stew and Natalya 3rd was just another petty and passive aggressive move by Tumi. I think Tumi needs to let got of this chip she has on her shoulder where in any and every situation she thinks she needs to assert her dominance. It feels that she’s always in defense mode thinking others are not to be trusted or something. I can’t quite put it into words. She is always looking for any little slight against her as if she’s expecting it.

Kali the Destroyer October 10, 2023 - 10:15 am

Tumi has Post Traumatic Racism Syndrome. It’s when you’ve had so many experiences of being insulted, belittled, undermined, passed over, and ignored specifically because of your race that you become extremely defensive and expect that negative behavior from just about everybody. She’s South African and that country is no utopia for Black folks. They’re only 30 years past apartheid, so I’m sure she’s regularly encountered racist micro and macroaggressions. The key is to be self-aware, take steps to heal, and not let anyone steal your joy.

????Veronica Mars????️‍♀️(Courtney) October 10, 2023 - 6:06 pm

Very true and very well said. I totally see that now and feel bad that she carries that.

Squirrellie October 10, 2023 - 11:50 am

But Nat took it wrong when Tumi was talking about the boat, it was how the boat is set up , not how Nat set up things. Nat started this. hehee

Nathaniel Gray October 10, 2023 - 6:16 pm

I agree.

I remember liking Tumi in the last Below Deck she was on. She did come in hot and Nat did get defensive.

doggiedaddy October 10, 2023 - 9:56 am

I can’t believe I watched this shit.
Natalya is that person who demands the party/event/decorations be done her way or they’re completely wrong. She’ll run to the hostess or surprise guest and tell them ‘if it sucks it’s not because of me’.
I’ve worked for decades with both Natalya’s and Tumi’s.
Both need a kick up side their asses, but more importantly they need a strong leader and Sandy can do neither.
Hopeless show.

And that marble mouth nobody doing the cooking while blaming the staff for the guests
demands is beyond the pale.

Then there is Kyle. Why and who cares?

Squirrellie October 10, 2023 - 11:49 am

That Chef not realizing he is on a boat and not a restaurant. What a Richard he is.

Beachgirl October 10, 2023 - 1:10 pm

Hehe – never gets old.

Housewife of Malibu October 10, 2023 - 10:26 am

All of this can be traced back to Kyle. He trash-talked Natalya to Tumi, who in turn believed him and is basing her judgment of Natalya on Kyle’s opinions. Tumi came in way too hot for someone just joining as a supervisor. A good supervisor sits back and watches for a bit. No one is ever waiting for a new supervisor to come in to tell someone what they are doing wrong. Natalya is overly sensitive and is poisoning everyone on the boat against Tumi. No one is right here.

ScrappieONE October 10, 2023 - 11:47 am

Kyle’s lack of clean up the night before is unacceptable IMO. What if the guests woke up before the crew to that. I cannot stand Kyle.

JustLivinTheDream October 10, 2023 - 2:09 pm

I thought exactly the same thing. I thought they stayed up till all work was finished.

Abbaccadda October 11, 2023 - 1:04 pm

He did that last season, too. Remember when Nat had to go to Sandy because she was waking up to a filthy boat? The bad thing is that Tumi (like Natasha) is condoning such laziness. He’ll push the envelope as long and as far as he can. He’s like a toddler testing a new babysitter to see what he can get away with. I wish Sandy had seem how dirty he left the boat. Maybe SHE would have laid down the law on leaving morning messes that the guests could wake up to.

texasrose October 11, 2023 - 5:42 pm

Kate Chastain and Capt Lee said the same thing on their talk show following WWHL. They said the salon should have been at least stripped of decorations and cleaned up before Kyle went to bed no matter the time.

ScrappieONE October 11, 2023 - 6:32 pm

He should have been fired or minimum given a big warning. I really can’t stand him and his entitlement and bratty attitude.

texasrose October 11, 2023 - 7:34 pm

I don’t understand why Tumi was ok with it without even talking to him??

Squirrellie October 10, 2023 - 11:48 am

So agree, but, heehehe Natalya took it the wrong way when Tumi was talking about the boat, she was talking in general not what Nat had set up. Nat running around talking shows me she does not deserve to be a Chief Stew. Kyle doesn’t help and that Chef is an ass.

Housewife of Malibu October 10, 2023 - 10:26 am

Thanks for another great BDM recap!

Bag Slapper October 10, 2023 - 11:33 am

It’s ironic that Sandy Yawn attends and speaks at so many women leadership conferences. Doesn’t she have anything to offer to her stews in terms of conflict resolution?

Mz. BossyPantz October 10, 2023 - 12:03 pm


Bim-Bo-Dietl-Slice October 11, 2023 - 1:14 am

I’m sure it’s difficult for her to relate any experience to the stews since they’re “just waitresses”.

KLeigh October 10, 2023 - 2:34 pm

Unpopular opinion: Natalya is butt hurt because she’s not Chief Stew. Tumi came in at a 5. I think that may be her personality. But Natalya’s response sent her to an 8 because she didn’t want to let go of the Chief Stew title. And the fact that she is now running around saying what a bitch Tumi is, doesn’t make me feel like she would be a good Chief. I don’t think that Natalya cares if the charter gets screwed up because then, she can blame Tumi.

Kyle is talking out of the both sides of his neck. He likes the drama.

DubrowsPointyFinger October 10, 2023 - 4:54 pm

Tumi came in with a preconceived notion of Natalya, thanks to KYLE.
Natalya thought she could trust KYLE. Shame on her.
KYLE wants to play both sides of the fence.
KYLE is also very lazy. He likes to be the life of the party, but NEVER EVER wants to clean. He reminds me of Culver.
IF Natalya had left that mess for KYLE he would have ran straight to Tumi and complained. I suspect she would have sided with KYLE. He pulled the same crap last season.

texasrose October 10, 2023 - 6:17 pm

Anyone else notice that when the french guy showed up he said he had been fired from every job he’s had?? A look into BRAVO’s vetting process- either lack of one or one where they knew this but wanted drama so cast him.

Also in defense of Natalya, Kate Chastain and Capt Lee on their show said it was TOTALLY unacceptable for the late stew to leave the cabin in that shape no matter what time they went to bed. Lounge should have, at least, been stripped of decorations.

abetty98 October 10, 2023 - 7:15 pm

I think both had their part in the miscommunication. But Tumi is over the top with her attitude towards Natayla. Hmmm, why would that be? As so many have pointed out…Kyle! Last season he was meh. Didn’t like him, but didn’t hate him. This season I think he is suffering the Sophomore curse.

Bim-Bo-Dietl-Slice October 11, 2023 - 1:12 am

Tumi has never been a chief stew before and it shows. She came in like a flaming thundercunt and had no business doing that. I wonder if she’s cringing as this airs now? She looks so damn stupid.

Abbaccadda October 11, 2023 - 1:00 pm

Kyle is toxic and devious. He wants to be chief stew and will stab anyone in the back to get his way. His goal is to create drama and turmoil, and Tumi is buying his BS hook, line, and proverbial sinker. He was lazy about cleaning when he worked lates last season, and Nat has been down that road before with him.

I’m team Nat on this one. She’s got two two-faced people targeting her. Tumi isn’t ready to be chief–she obviously cannot handle guest and crew issues on the fly. Kyle is lazy. He loves gossiping, causing drama and games too much to be chief. Nat did a great job filling in as chief on the first charter, but I don’t think she knows how to delegate well enough to be chief, either. Tumi came in like a ball-buster then said she didn’t want to “demand” respect, but she lacks the people skills needed to COMMAND respect and playing telephone with Kyle won’t help her. She’ll realize she’s been duped when he stabs her in the back as he has Nat.


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