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Kyle Richards labeled Sutton Stracke “condescending” due to the “missy” comment she made to Amanda Frances on Thursday’s episode of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills.
After a tense dinner amid their group trip to Sedona, Amanda, 40, woke up to Sutton, 54, seemingly holding a grudge against her due to a comment she made in regard to her former assistant Avi Gabay potentially threatening to spill dirt. Looking back, Amanda reflected on the bad “vibes” between them.
“It wasn’t like, ‘Oh how dare she;’ it was like, ‘Whoa, whoa, whoa. Who is she thinking I am and what is she thinking I’m doing?’ Like, why are we ‘Hey missy’-ing in the kitchen … at like 8 am?” Amanda wondered on the January 15 episode of the RHOBH: After Show. “It had an attitude, and it felt like the vibes [were] going all wrong for us right then.”
“It feels condescending, absolutely,” Kyle agreed. “It’s definitely not an endearing term … She thought she had something up your sleeve, for sure.”
While Sutton and Amanda weren’t in a good place in Sedona, things have improved between them since then.
“I think she knows me now. I think she knows that I don’t come in with agendas,” Amanda noted.
“She knows now,” Kyle clarified. “But in that moment I think she thought, oh she knows more or is going to say more or was going to do something … She didn’t trust you.”
Months after the scene was shot, Amanda said Sutton’s reaction to her claim about Avi made “a little more sense.”
“At the time I’m just thinking, ‘Whoa, whoa.’ But I’m also thinking, ‘You told us you wanted to be Sutton Brown.’ And I’m so invested in personal development. It’s like my whole job. I’m so invested in the idea that people can grow and change. She tells us she wants to turn over a new leaf, and then she’s, ‘Hey missy’ing me, and I’m like, ’It’s not congruent,’” she explained.
As Sutton admitted she was being “sassy,” Jennifer Tilly, 67, said she’d previously used the term on Sutton, and Kathy Hilton, 66, said Sutton called her “missy” all the time. Meanwhile, Rachel Zoe, 54, said she’d be “really upset” if someone called her “missy” and Erika Jayne, 54, noted that there were “a hell of a lot worse things to call people than ‘missy.’”
“It’s kind of a love thing,” Kathy reasoned as Jennifer pointed out that “tone” had a lot to do with it.
“Everything depends on tone,” agreed Bozoma “Boz” Saint John, 48. “I think the way that Sutton said, yes, I would be offended, but also, Amanda called it to herself. So she kind of deserved it.”
“It is, it’s the tone,” Dorit Kemsley, 49, replied.
Erika also noted that Sutton was being threatened as she defended her “missy” comment.
“Think about what was being said to Sutton. I mean, you’re basically telling her that the man that worked for her, that was really close to her, was going to tell secrets and then you’re upset that she called you missy? That’s pretty out of balance. I don’t find that offensive,” she stated, adding, “What Amanda was saying was far more damaging than ‘missy.’”
The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills season 15 airs Thursdays at 8/7c on Bravo.