The Real Housewives of Orange County star Gina Kirschenheiter was shown tearing up about her marriage difficulties on Monday night’s episode of the show, but in real time, she is currently going through a split, after filing for divorce in April. And in two separate interviews, Gina is revealing why her marriage fell apart, if she’s planning to move back to New York, and where she currently stands with her ex today.
“I’m having problems with Matt. I feel like the more time that we’re apart from each other, it’s just highlighting how different we are,” she shared.
“I did [file for divorce],” Gina admitted. “I’ve ended the institution of marriage, but like, we will always be family. And there will never be a divide between Matt and I. And I love him dearly and he’s the father of my children.”
Host Andy Cohen then asked if there was a specific thing that happened or a breaking point, and Gina revealed the separation was simply a long time coming.
“No, it’s like death by a thousand paper cuts honestly. You know, like it just happens,” Gina explained. “We got married very young and we realized we just don’t have that connection.”
Andy also asked her if there was another woman involved when it comes to the split, and she unequivocally answered, “No.”
In a separate interview with PEOPLE, Gina, who married Matt at the age of 23, says looking back now, they simply got married too young.
“I wasn’t ready to make a decision about who I was going to spend the rest of my life with at 23,” she shared. “We made it work because we made it work. But I’m a completely different person than I was then.”
Another issue was the couple’s move to Orange County, which isolated them from their friends and family in Long Island, New York.
“On Long Island, marriage is a community thing,” explained Gina. “Your parents, your in-laws, your siblings, your friends, your family — they’re all a part of your relationship. You don’t think about breaking that up. So when we moved to California, it was like, now you only have each other. And you really have to validate that relationship and say, ‘Are we really functioning and working well? Are you really my soulmate who I want to spend the rest of my life with in that way? When we asked ourselves those questions, we discovered that we really didn’t.”
When it comes to her future plans, Gina revealed she currently has no plans to move out of Orange County. In fact, she revealed that she and Matt have now decided to take their O.C. home off the market, after listing it for $975,000 earlier this year, citing a bad real estate market. So now, the exes take turns spending time with their kids in the OC home.
She also shared that the divorce is going very smoothly, adding that Matthew continues to financially support her and their three children together — Nicholas, 6, Sienna, 4, and Luca, 2.
“He’s always going to take care of us,” she stated. “We don’t come from money, so it’s not about money. I’m not going to fight over money, it’s not worth it.”
Finally, Gina revealed she’s not ready to date yet and that she is choosing to focus on the “nine amazing years” of marriage she shared with Matt, rather than the bad times.
“Maybe the last year-and-half that wasn’t so wonderful, why focus on that stuff? I don’t want to have to hate somebody I had a bad year or two with because we realized we’re different and not meant to be together. It’s not worth it,” shared Gina.
The RHOC airs Monday nights at 9/8c on Bravo.
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