Kara Keough Bosworth is opening up about the heartbreaking loss of her newborn son, McCoy Casey Bosworth, who passed away on April 12, six days after he was born at home. Kara’s mother, Jeana Keough, also shared about how the family is coping.
“I’ve been lucky to hear from parents that are on the other side of it, or as far on the other side as you can be, and they say it gets better,” Kara told Good Morning America in her first interview since the tragic loss. “They say eventually the waves of grief don’t feel like they’re knocking you over every day, and that you have to just get through it — but that you aren’t alone.”
The Real Housewives of Orange Country alum revealed how their family was planning to deliver at a hospital, but that decision switched to an at-home birth after the coronavirus pandemic hit.
Unfortunately, during the at-home birth process, her son McCoy got stuck in a frightening condition known as shoulder dystocia which led to a compressed umbilical cord during his birth. And in an instant, everything changed. “I pushed his head out quickly,” Kara recalled, but his body didn’t follow.
Kara’s midwife’s assistant called 911 immediately as she went into “fight mode” and put forth an “Olympic effort” to deliver her son, along with the help of her husband and midwife.
Just as the emergency medical team was walking in, Kara, 32, was able to deliver her son. After turning him over, she told her husband, “Babe, it’s a boy!” It then registered to her that she hadn’t heard her baby cry, nor was baby McCoy breathing or moving. Kara stared in shock as the first responders performed chest compressions to her 11-pound, 4-ounce baby.
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You would have been 3 weeks old today. You would be “waking up” and showing us more of you. I would be getting the hang of being a mom of two. My milk would be regulating to your schedule. Your sister would be asking questions about your belly button and you would have peed on her at least once by now. Daddy would be sending texts to his football buddies about how our giant baby boy could probably already out-lift them. We would be laughing that you never fit into newborn diapers, not even for one day. I’d be exhausted, leaking, and happy. Instead… we’re missing you. To all my fellow “instead” mamas…. thank you for reminding me that we’re not alone, and that we can survive this. He didn’t, but we have to. And we will.
Baby McCoy was then rushed to the hospital. Days later, Kara and her husband were told that he had suffered severe brain damage. And although a strong effort was made, the baby unfortunately couldn’t be saved.
“We had a strong son and he fought every second of his life,” added her husband, Kyle Bosworth. “Now we’ve got to figure out how to make his life meaningful.”
To celebrate baby McCoy’s legacy, the family launched a fundraiser for March of Dimes on April 21 to “encourage birth equity among all races, and from all socioeconomic backgrounds” to help other families who have lost their newborns or whose babies are in intensive care.
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You would have been 1 month old today. Your baby acne would be gearing up. You would be getting the hang of pacifiers, sorting out your days and nights, and figuring out how to focus your eyes without them involuntarily crossing. I would have already bought a complete boy’s wardrobe since Decker’s old clothes weren’t really as unisex as I thought. Your dad would be insisting that babies don’t need shoes, but he’d change his mind when he saw the little kicks paired with your chubby cankles. You’d be taking your first naps in the crib, and I’d be fussing about “the schedule.” I’d be realizing that you, just like your sister, prefer Lefty and I’d be pumping Righty to try to bring ‘er up to speed. Decker would want to be holding you all the time, but you’d prefer to be spending your day wrapped around my chest. At least that much is still how it is, my sweet Mack. Decker still wishes she could hold you more. And I still wear you on my heart all day. We miss you like crazy, baby.
Kara’s mother, Jeana, also weighed in on the earth-shattering loss the family has been dealing with and how they’ve been trying to cope.
“She’s reached out to a lot of friends. She’s reached out to people who’ve lost children,” Jeana told Hollywood Life. “Morgan Beck, Bode Miller‘s wife, lost a baby, an 18-month-old to a swimming accident. She and Kara were close throughout all of that and Morgan was one of the first to reach out to her this time. And a lot of women that have lost children for different reasons have reached out to her. So that’s been great.”
“You know what to lose a grandchild and an ex husband in less than three weeks — it’s been rough,” she said.