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Ambyr Childers recalled watching Randall Emmett‘s sex tape with Lala Kent during Friday’s episode of their joint podcast.
Years after learning that her then-husband, and the father of her two children, was having an affair with Lala, 35, of Vanderpump Rules and The Valley, Ambyr, 37, admitted she was thankful to have seen it because it forced her out of her dysfunctional relationship with Randall, 54, and her denial, as she suggested their mutual ex was a serial cheater.
“I’ve seen all of you, the front, the back, inside and outside,” Ambyr began to Lala on the January 9 episode of Untraditionally Lala‘s An Unlikely Affair, via a transcript shared by Vanderpod Recaps on Instagram. “I don’t want to get into the details because the details aren’t important … [But that moment] really shaped me in my life … I knew you guys were together. I knew the affair was happening.”
Although Ambyr, who shares daughters London and Rylee with Randall, wasn’t sure who was calling Randall in the middle of the night, it all came together once she looked at the tape.
“My whole life kind of just stopped. And it wasn’t about what I was seeing in front of me. It was more of like, I had completely realized that I had abandoned myself,” she admitted.
Despite the betrayal, Ambyr said she found herself staying with Randall due to her lack of boundaries.
“When your safety and your well-being and who you are as a person is threatened, you forget those boundaries. You put aside the boundaries because, for me, that dysfunction was going on for so many years that it felt safe,” she explained. “Leaving never felt safe.”
Even though Ambyr had heard plenty about Randall’s infidelity, the sex tape woke her up in a different way.
“I was like, if you don’t leave, you’re going to die. Because I really did. I wanted to die. I felt so trapped in that relationship,” she shared. “I stayed because of my kids. I didn’t want my girls to grow up with a broken home. I didn’t know what that experience was like, and I didn’t want that. And in that moment, I realized, I was like, okay, I got to get out. This is it.”
“I [had] to save myself for my kids and myself,” she continued. “I was half dead. I was taking pills to numb my feelings, to just suppress all that sh*t that I was feeling inside because I didn’t know what to do with it.”
In addition to coming across Randall and Lala’s sex tape, Ambyr also received a call from Lala, which she is now grateful for.
“I think God was doing for me that which I couldn’t do for myself … [Because] I wouldn’t have [ever] left,” she admitted. “It was denial … it’s debilitating.”
During another segment of the show, via Breaking the Rules Pod Clips on Instagram, Lala looked back on the moment she knew she and Randall had been caught.
“When it came up on Vanderpump, Katie Maloney had been at a barbecue, and there was a guy there who was an actor, and his wife had said to Katie, ‘Oh, you’re on that show with that Lala girl. You know she is with [blank],’ and that’s when Katie was like, ‘Oh, I have confirmation,” she shared, confessing to trying to have her IMDb page wiped.
But by that point, Ambyr “had known for a while,” but didn’t speak up since Randall had cheated before.
“Every time, you get a little bit smarter … [And] from my experience and from what I’ve read and learned through my own healing, is that you get really good with following addicts and their patterns. And it became like a calendar. It was like clockwork for me,” she noted.
“It [was] unhealthy. I was in such a spiral cause I was so desperate to save my marriage,” she added.
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After Ambyr and Randall’s divorce, he and Lala became engaged and welcomed daughter Ocean, now 4, before splitting in late 2021 due to his apparent cheating.