RHOC’s Tamra Judge Says She Is Done Feeling Sorry for Shannon Beador, Wants Her to ‘Take Responsibility for Her Actions’ Plus Shannon Talks “Difficult” Episode

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RHOC's Tamra wants Shannon to take responsibility for actions

Tamra Judge reached her breaking point with Shannon Beador during their group trip to Jamaica on The Real Housewives of Orange County.

Following Monday night’s episode of the Bravo TV reality show, Tamra took to her blog, where she revealed that she is done feeling sorry for Shannon and wanted Shannon to start taking responsibility for her actions and behavior. Tamra also admitted that Shannon’s never-ending negativity had been driving her “crazy” prior to their blowup.

“The constant negativity was driving me crazy. I was at my breaking point with Shannon. I love my friend dearly, but it wasn’t OK for her to act this way anymore,” Tamra wrote.

During their trip, new cast members Gina Kirschenheiter and Emily Simpson confided in Tamra about the way they had been treated by Shannon and suggested she wouldn’t “give them the time of day.”

“I tried to explain to them that Shannon is not good with change and doesn’t ask a lot of questions about other people, not even me, her BFF. Both the girls told me that I was just making excuses and enabling her, and they didn’t understand why I would do that,” Tamra revealed. “Saying you have too much on your plate to acknowledge somebody on vacation makes no sense. Here’s the thing: It’s really hard for me to tell Shannon when she’s acting out, because all she does is get mad and ices me out. So I just don’t say anything most of the time.”

While Tamra did discuss her discrepancies with Shannon during her chat with Gina on the RHOC, she never told Gina that Shannon was a bad friend. So, when Shannon stormed off during a meal, Tamra became upset.

“I am the one that is always there for her, makes excuses for her behavior, and supports everything she does. Sometimes it’s exhausting!” Tamra vented. “When I didn’t say ‘Yes, Shannon is a good friend’ right away, Shannon stormed off, and of course I chased after her… I tried to talk to Shannon about being a more positive person. I really don’t think that Shannon sees how she’s acting, but all she wanted to do was attack me.”

Later in the episode, Kelly Dodd informs Shannon that Tamra allegedly told her she wasn’t a good friend. However, as Tamra explained, she never said that. Instead, she simply confirmed Shannon had never called and asked about her husband Eddie Judge‘s health struggles.

“So for Shannon to try to turn things around and make it look like I’m going around talking badly about her and calling her selfish after we had our ‘talk at Rogers Gardens’ is absolute bulls**t,” Tamra continued. “To insinuate that I’m feeding into Emily and Gina having problems with her infuriates me. Take responsibility for your own actions. You did this, not me.”

“Everyone was coming from a place of concern that night, and I just don’t understand how Shannon can’t see it,” she added.

In closing, Tamra told readers of her blog she was done feeling sorry for Shannon and hoped she could learn to “flip the switch” and embark on a more positive way of life.

“When you continue to complain about the same thing over and over again and do nothing about it, I can’t feel sorry for you anymore,” she explained. “You have choices in life. Either you can be happy or you can be miserable. I told Shannon it’s time for her to flip the switch and be happy.”

Meanwhile, Shannon didn’t share much of anything in her blog this week, simply stating that she will address Monday’s episode during the RHOC reunion which films this week.

“This is a very difficult episode for me to watch. First, to re-live the pain I was going through at the time in a fairly new separation, but also to hear what my friends were saying behind my back,” wrote Shannon. “I have so many things to say, but at this time I don’t want to dive into it. We are filming our reunion this week, and I intend to address it there.”

The Real Housewives of Orange County airs Mondays at 9 p.m. on Bravo TV.

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