Nearly one month after the Vanderpump Rules couple first confirmed the end of their marriage with statements on their Instagram pages, Katie revealed what Tom could have done to save their relationship before looking back on his commitment issues and suggesting he was never on her side.
“I really thought that we were gonna make it work,” Katie shared on the April 10 episode of the We Met At Acme podcast, via E! News. “I felt that we had overcome a lot together. I felt that we had grown together, and I thought that we would continue growing together. I was very optimistic.”
Although Katie and Tom spoke of plans to start a family as recently as February, Katie admitted that she began questioning the future of her marriage at the end of last year. And, if Tom had experienced a “wakeup call [or] an epiphany,” that could have changed the direction their relationship took.
“I had been expressing my feelings and where I felt that I was not getting my needs met and where I thought I was being hurt by some of the behavior, and I don’t think he understood or resonated or agreed,” she explained. “I think he thought that I was just gonna get over it or something.”
While Katie took fault for her role in her challenges with Tom, noting that she was a “bad drunk,” she said she was making an effort to improve but didn’t feel he was doing the same. And, after expressing herself to Tom, she recalled that he “didn’t really do anything.”
After Katie decided to file for divorce, which Tom “didn’t necessarily agree” with, he didn’t fight.
Currently, Katie and Tom are living together at their $1.9 million home in Los Angeles. But, that hasn’t stopped Katie from thinking about dating. In fact, after spending the last 12 years in a relationship, she said she hopes to meet someone new “the old-fashioned way.”
“You would think that after being with someone for 12 years and all of this that you would not be ready for that, but I feel like I am and would be down for all of that,” she said.
Also on the podcast, Katie admitted that she saw “red flags” before marrying Tom.
“I felt like he was always very commitment-phobic in ways,” Katie admitted, via Just Jared. “And I was, you know, wanting to take natural progressions, [getting married] was always something I wanted. And he was being naughty. And so I was like, you know, it’s time for you to make the real commitment.”
As Pump Rules fans will recall, Katie infamously dealt Tom with an ultimatum. And, after he gave into her demands, they hosted a wedding in Northern California.
“And, of course, now I’m the one that’s asked for a divorce. So it’s funny how life works,” Katie noted.
As for Tom’s “people pleasing” tendencies, Katie said that weighed heavily on her mind.
“That also came through with him always kind of having other people’s backs and not having my own back. He wasn’t necessarily on my team in a lot of ways and it’s fine. I didn’t need to be right about everything, but I didn’t need to be alone in everything,” she shared. “He kind of always tended to take his buddy’s side or anyone else’s side. That was a common thread throughout the relationship that was frustrating to me.”
Katie added that while Tom dating will be “weird,” she doesn’t believe she will feel hurt by it.
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